Ok, so maybe you absolutely HATE your job, or you just graduated college, or you’re in the midst of a quarter-life crisis? Discovering what the hell to do with your life and what makes your soul most fulfilled is a wild journey to go down.
We live in an interesting time where we are no longer searching for work that just simply pays the bills, but work that feeds our soul. It can either be a rigorous or easy adventure to actually understand what work will make us happy. It can be sometimes painful to figure it out and actually turn it into someone viable. I get it.
I’ve watched my dad do work he absolutely loves his entire life. He always taught me that if you love the work you do then you never work a day in your life. I’ve seen my mom make beautiful art and get lost in her creative spirit. Finding work that satisfies my soul, heart, and spirit is embedded in my genes. I believe it’s a blessing and curse.
I can’t just get a job, sit down, and do the work. My mind and heart will be screaming at me – “DOES THIS EVEN MAKE YOU HAPPY?”. I’ve worked boring corporate jobs that have literally made me vomit. I’ve done creative work that didn’t feel right even when on paper it should of.
To be 100% honest with you, a couple times a year, I take a step back and realize I don’t know what the hell I am doing with my life. I am not coming to you as someone who has her shit together. Quarter-life crisis is my middle name. This post is coming to you from someone who understands that the journey to find soul-fulfilling work is an endless one and here’s how to make the journey a little more uplifting and fun.
Get outside of your learned idea of success
Often times we pick up ideas and belief systems that we’ve been told or that our experiences have taught us. These learned ideas can be beneficial or detrimental to finding what makes our heart excited. These ideas of success can be picked up from our family, siblings, peers, society, media, and everything in between.
I know a common idea of success can be working your way up the corporate ladder. And maybe that is what truly makes you happy and that’s ok too. But if that is a learned idea of success that doesn’t make you happy then I recommend dissecting it so you can get rid of that roadblock and run closer to the work that does fulfil you. What is your learned idea of success that you are carrying around with you?
Sometimes we have voices in our head that don’t even apply to us. Sometimes they do. These voices can come from outside sources and could not be our own. It’s our path to find out which ones are right and which ones are wrong for no one else but ourselves.
You may also have to come to terms with some conflict for going against this learned idea of success / inner voices. There may be some conflict that you will have to work through within yourself and people around you. Trust me, the hardest part is taking the initial leap from your learned idea to what you truly want. Everything after that gets easier and easier.
Be constantly curious
When you don’t know exactly what direction to go, it’s an exciting opportunity to be open to anything instead of creating limitations for yourself. It’s a balance between knowing what you don’t want in order to know what you do want. But if you haven’t tried it yet, don’t count it out.
Cultivating curiosity can create magic on your journey. Curiosity doesn’t have rules. Curiosity doesn’t tell you that you are wrong. It’s a state mind that can be freeing, fun, wild, and beautiful. Lean into it.
Surround yourself with people who inspire possibilty
I’m sure you’ve heard the concept that you are a combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with? Whenever I would hear that it would always make me feel so stressful. I felt like I had to surround myself with people who had all their shit together but there’s a real secret to life – NO ONE HAS THEIR SHIT TOGETHER!
I realized that surrounding myself with people who are truly authentic (not pseudo-authentic, I know you know what I mean by that) was one of the most important things to me. That’s something that I have learned to value above all else in my life and because of that I seem to easily find others who value the same.
Take a deep look within yourself and find what you value the most in relationships and human connection. Make sure you surround yourself with these like-minded people. No matter what you value, it’s essential to your journey to also find people who inspire possibility. People who lift you up no only with their words but by their actions.
If you can’t put your finger on why someone always makes you feel like shit when you see them then don’t surround yourself with that. Often times it’s hard to even understand why you just don’t vibe with someone, but life is too short to try and figure out why. Awesome, possibility-inspiring people are plentiful!
Be your own teacher, coach, and advisor
When we realize we don’t have all the answers, it’s easy to want to submit ourselves to someone who seems to have the answers. I honestly and solely believe we always have the answers within ourselves. I’m not saying I don’t believe in coaches, teachers, or mentors. But those people are only there to guide you back to the answers you already had within yourself.
Sometimes we need that guidance. And sometimes we need to take a deep look inside to pull those answers out. They may not come immediately but they will come if you take the time to look. Take the time you need to understand what’s really going on inside of you.
I can almost 100% assure you that if someone says they have all the answers then they are probably the most lost. Please don’t hire them to tell you all the answers. You have collected unique life experiences along the way that will NEVER, EVER be the same as the person next to you. There are answers that only work for you. Hire or listen to the person who takes your hand and helps lead you to places that are only right for you.
Discovering your life purpose isn’t an end goal
Our lives are not one-destination journeys. You will make many stops along the way and each stop will mean something else to you. Enjoy the ride. Our time here is not permanent and I believe that life is purely meant to be enjoyed.
There’s so much pressure that is put upon us in finding our exact purpose in life and putting a label on it. Be gentle with yourself as you don’t have to get it right, perfect, or even finish it. There’s magic in discovering what makes you happy. Take it as a beautiful journey instead of something that stresses you out so much you get hives and want to vomit.
I still don’t have my shit together and I’m ok with that. Will you be ok with that too?